“There are no atheists in foxholes, they say, and I was a foxhole atheist for a long time. But after going through a midlife crisis and having many things change very quickly, it made me realize my mortality. And when you start to think about death, you start to think about what’s after it.”
– Peter Steele
You know you’re not happy, but what can you do about it? You aren’t the first to face this challenge and you won’t be the last. There are several ways to handle a midlife crisis.
Consider these ideas:
- Stay positive. It’s easy to become discouraged when you know you have a challenge, but you don’t know how to resolve it. That doesn’t mean that a solution doesn’t exist. You might not even need a solution in the conventional sense. You might only require a change in perspective.
- Find a group activity that you enjoy. Join a dancing class or a coed volleyball league. Spend time with others in an enjoyable setting doing something you love. Branch out a little and shake your life up.
- Look for small changes that can make a difference. Is it possible that a new hobby or a new friend could bring about a change for the better? Look for small solutions that don’t require drastic changes.
- Your life might need a Band-Aid rather than an amputation. Look at small changes before getting carried away.
- Try joining a gym and losing ten pounds or taking a new position within your current company. Try a new vacation location. Reach out to a few old friends and reconnect. They’ll be glad to hear from you.
- Think about getting professional help. The right therapist is worth her weight in gold. Mental health professionals are trained to help you navigate this type of issue. There’s no reason to tackle your challenge alone.
- The wrong therapist can cause more challenges than they solve. Not all lawyers or mechanics are equally skilled. Avoid believing that all health professionals are created equal.
- Take care of yourself. Depression can be a part of a midlife crisis. It’s common to let your self-care and grooming slide.
- Eat appropriately.
- Avoid alcohol and drugs.
- Bathe, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and maintain your grooming routine.
- Get sufficient sleep.
- Keep your mind in the present. There’s often little to be gained by dissecting the past or speculating about the future. To do so in an intentional way can be helpful, but sitting around and ruminating can make your situation even more challenging. Your solution lies in the present, so focus your attention there.
- Decide what you really want. You know that you don’t want what you currently have. That’s a start, but it’s not a solution. What do you want? If you can make any change to your life, what would it be?
These are universally useful tips! A midlife crisis is similar to any other challenge in life that leaves you feeling dissatisfied. A calm and thoughtful approach will give better results than acting impulsively. Take care of yourself and stay social. There are plenty of things to enjoy in life.