“Middle age is when you’re sitting at home on a Saturday night and the telephone rings and you hope it isn’t for you.”
– Ogden Nash
A midlife crisis happens to many middle-aged adults. It can serve as a natural transition into later adulthood. A midlife crisis is an opportunity to reevaluate and create new meaning for the next chapter of your life. The worst response is to panic and take drastic action without careful consideration.
Attempt to be dispassionate for a moment and review your situation objectively. What is missing? What can you substitute that will provide the same results? You might feel that you’re settling for a second-best alternative. Even if that were true, does it make sense to be upset about it for the rest of your life?
Your current situation determines your options. Your current situation is different from your situation 25 years ago. Keep your mind in the present and be accepting. Avoid being too attached to what might have been. You still have many wonderful years ahead of you!
Midlife Crisis – Reflection
A midlife crisis doesn’t have to be the end of the world or result in major life changes. Identify the cause of the crisis and proceed accordingly. Your answers to these questions will help you ﬁgure out a plan to get you through it.
- What do I feel is the cause of my midlife crisis?
- What are the signs? Why do I think I’m having a midlife crisis?
- What is missing from my life?
- What are the small changes that could make a signiﬁcant difference in my life?
- What goals can I set that would replace what’s missing from my life?
- What are the daily activities I can do to achieve those goals?
- What is a group activity that I would look forward to each week?
“It seems, in fact, as though the second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has accumulated during the first half” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky
“Shrinking away from death is something unhealthy and abnormal which robs the second half of life of its purpose.” – Carl Jung